All things work together for the good for those who love the Lord, For those who are called according to His purpose. Rom. 8:28.
God makes all of your life experiences work together to shape you into the powerful person that you are today! It may sound like hyperbole, but it is not. You have cognitive skills and creative abilities that are unique to you and were discovered through pain or hardship. Likewise, there are others that were discovered through blessings and enjoyments. All of them work together to make you useful for the Masters use.
Your life experiences shaped the way that you think, your devotions and passions. They are the reason that you weep when you do and celebrate the things you do. They are what God has used to place the demands on you that you presently feel. They are why you are attracted to the people that you engage. The way that you felt, processed and managed your life experiences formed your nuances. Finally, yes, they are the reason that you experience the triggers that you do which are in many ways distinct.
All things work together to necessitate your authenticity and to make a genuine difference in the world. There is a world inside of you that longs to impact, the worlds of those around you.
How we feel about our past experiences, or our present state for that matter, can be a source of pain and/or guilt and shame. That is, until you shift your thinking to understand the value of your authentic self. "You are who you think yourself to be in your heart."Pro. 23:7. God never intended for our thoughts about our experiences to be shaped by the worlds society, nor religion, but many are. Consequently we make erroneous judgements that work against who we really are and what we believe about who we are.
Life is a series of steps that we take. The bible says that "Abraham walked with God" Gen. 17:1. Abraham was not perfect, yet the bible never points to missteps, only his steps. "We walk by faith and not by sight" 2 Cor. 5:7, indicates that we take steps of faith. The world refers to taking leaps of faith, but the bible never mentions that we leap, rather that we take steps. "Our steps are ordered by the Lord. " Psalm 37:23. Sometimes baby steps, sometimes bigger steps, sometimes we limp and at times we stagger, but they are all steps of faith.
As we journey together, remember that steps are all that God is seeking from us. Steps toward becoming your authentic self. The self that loves God and that you love. The guiltless self. The powerful self. The self that shamelessly knows the power of your story; both the pain and the pleasure of it. After all, your story is your platform. The blotchy, the sloppy, the sketchiness and the messiness of your story, all works together to make you the powerful woman that you are. Your story is there to be a vehicle that carries you into prayer, worship and service to others. That is the woman that God knows earnestly and truthfully. She is also the woman that God seeks.
Often, we want to hide her. We want her to go away. We want to be ashamed of her story because society says we should. The church dittos that and we often comply for acceptance. Notably, pain gets tucked away, feelings get hidden under the cloak of Christianity; but God says let me have her; raw, organic, unrefined and undone. She's useable and she's powerful.
When I was 16, I had an abortion. It was a family secret. No one was to know. According to many - NO, according to most, It was disgraceful that I had become pregnant at 16. In fact it was incomprehensible that I had been sexually active when I was not yet married. I deserved to walk with my head down for the rest of my days by the standards of some. Others, who deemed themselves more merciful (LOL) saw me as a victim. “Some boy had taken advantage of that poor girl”. Yet, others found it so hard to talk about that when I brought it up they fell silent. “Surely, she doesn’t want this to be known by anyone?" The overall consensus was that I had been irresponsible. I should have known better. I had been a naughty girl and had been raised better than that. This shame cloaked me for years. That is until I came to Christ.
You're probably thinking that it was receiving God's forgiveness that set me free. Sure, God's forgiveness was important to me, but I still felt ashamed after I had come to Christ and been forgiven for my sin. My shame and guilt stemmed from my inability to embrace my story and forgive myself. It's not that I didn’t want to forgive myself. It's just that my Christian upbringing taught me that I didn’t deserve to feel unashamed. One Day, I realized that my morals, and values had been shaped by religious thinkers. Yes, people who knew the bible, but didn’t know Christ. Religion wants you to pay for your sinful behavior. Christ wants you to be set free from it and from the shame and or guilt attached to it.. It was years of God working to transform my thinking that lead me to the amazing freedom that I finally enjoy today.
Life is messy, It's ugly, It's beautiful and rewarding. The steps we take are sometimes reckless, ill advised, or desperate. Others are mindful, discreet or wise. But everyday that you are alive, YOU lived that day. You learned that day. You grew that day. And that day and everyday is helping to make you who God purposed you to be. That means that I will not think like you. I will take many steps and step by step by step, I will learn to love like Christ and to think like Christ. The closer I get to loving like Christ, the more my words and actions change my world and cause ripples of freedom and joy in the world of those around me.
Not all triggers are born out of pain and trauma. They can also be born out of deep seeded passions and devotions. There is only one time in scripture where we see Jesus triggered by the behavior of the Jews. It wasn't due to any stress, hardship or hurt. It was over His devotion to God.
John writes, " And He found in the temple those who sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the money changers doing business. When He had made a whip of cords, He drove them all out of the temple, with the sheep and the oxen, and poured out the changers’ money and overturned the tables. And He said to those who sold doves, “Take these things away! Do not make My Father’s house a house of merchandise!” Then His disciples remembered that it was written, “Zeal for Your house has eaten Me up” John 16:14-17.
With that being said, there are times when we react emotionally out of injustice or acts of dishonor. Our goal in Communicating Beyond Our Triggers is to discover and to resolve the emotional triggers that come from past pain, trauma, stress or personal hardships, so that we can be our authentic selves and experience true freedom in the way that we communicate.
Your voice is important. There is a demand on you to be genuine and to make a genuine and lasting difference in the world that you live in. There is a world that awaits you. There are those who will never be free, never grow and never become whole, until the real you shows up.
I am looking forward to our time together.
Until then, grab, grow and go!
Hi, my name is Donna Mosley, and I was born to help people change the trajectory of their thinking, to be healed of past pain and trauma. That is so that they can find their authentic self and stand on the platform of their story.
I was born to a mentally cognitive mother and an absent father. Raised by an Aunt and Uncle who did their due diligence due to family pressure; left me feeling unloved, unwanted and unprotected and even unnecessary. In a real sense one can say that I was born out of pain and born into pain.
God raised me up to confront the pain of people and to lead them to a safe place of healing and wholeness. That safe place is Jesus. Yes, He is, and we are lead to Him over and over again. How great is that? When Jesus said, come to me, those words are eternal. Come and keep coming and keep coming and don't ever stop coming. I love that! When we keep coming to Him, we find true freedom, peace and guidance for our lives.
My passion is storytelling and theater is my tool. Even so, I am a teacher at heart with a few wonderful gifts bestowed upon me to assist the demand that God has placed on me. This bible study is born out of that demand. I'm so happy that you are going to be apart.
Communicating beyond my triggers was a real tough place for me. Through years of trying and failing, I finally turned to the grace of God. You will learn more about that in our time together. I have improved tremendously and want to help others to master their communication skills when communication becomes difficult or shuts down.
Well, enough about me. I can't wait to hear your story.